"Make do woman"

While I cannot take credit for this word of wisdom, I can certainly identify with it. I received it in an email and per it's instructions I am "passing it on". Please feel free to do the same. Perhaps if we all share, there will be less "make do women" in the world. To the author of this delicate trinket, much thanks. To alL my fellow "make do women" CUT THAT OUT! :o) Love yourself....

Make do Woman

When I was preparing to get married, I started getting
all sorts of Advice especially at bridal showers and
things like that from family and Friends.
But one of the most interesting "lessons" came from a
woman I met for the first time, just a few weeks before
the big day, She said, "Honey, whatever you do, don't
ever let yourself become a "make-do" woman" I had no
idea what she meant, but, of course, she was About to
explain She continued,
"Men" don't deny themselves
anything.
Whatever they want to buy, they buy. Whatever they
want to do, they do. Meanwhile, there is the Wife,
making do with her hair not being done, her clothes
from yesteryear, her nails in need, never had a pedicure,
scraping the bottom of her tube of lipstick! Oh, I
could go on and on with how "we" make do.
And why? Because the car needs fixing, this bill is
behind, we have to use our time to take care of this, or
take care of that; we're saving for this, working,
cooking, cleaning, raising, etc."She warned me to
never become a make-do woman, because she says if
you start, it is hard to stop and one could easily find
themselves making-do for the rest of their Lives.
I vowed it would never happen to me. I didn't think
much more of the conversation until one day, I began
to take notice, she was right.
Men are a lot better at being good to themselves.
Some call it being selfish, There has to be another
word for it. Tell me if you know.
Whatever you call it. It does have its place.
When they want to play ball, or golf, or fish, they go!
When they want to buy clothes, or equipment, or video
games, or whatever their "thing" is, they buy! Have
you ever tried to stop one? Has anyone ever been able
to stop one? Let me know! When I look around, I
see a whole heap of Make-do women, married or not,
with or without children, they are all over the place!
I have decided that I am going to make my best effort
to become a "make-time" woman! I will make the time
to do what I need to do to be good to myself, whether
that's a trip to the salon, or the gym or the mall.
This time I'm going to take a lesson from the guys!
All right ladies, single and married...
Let's NOT be "MAKE-DO" Women!
Let's LOVE OURSELVES and
ENCOURAGE each other! Pass it on!
It's something we could all
appreciate....

I Wonder...

I Wonder… 

I wonder if he knows that I am disappearing everyday.

I wonder if he knows that I don’t feel loved.

I wonder if he knows that I don’t feel valued.

I wonder if he knows that I am beginning to resent him.

I wonder if he knows that I can’t live like this any longer.

I wonder if he knows that I want to ballroom dance.

I wonder if he knows that I have dreams of a better life.

I wonder if he knows that they don’t include him.

I wonder if he knows that the light of the love we once shared is dim.

See, he’s live with me for a lifetime, so how could he not know? He knew what

to say when he was pursing me. He knew how to be charming and caring then. Hell, he was downright funny. There was a time when I even considered him a close friend.

What is it about “I do” that causes people to become emotionally lazy? Is he so convinced that he has me  so “locked down” I won’t go anywhere?

I wonder…

I wonder if he knows that in a way he’s already lost me.

I wonder if he sees that the young girl he married is becoming a woman scorned.

I KNOW HE KNOWS I need a partner because I’ve told him so.

I KNOW HE KNOWS that I got married to have someone to share a life with because I told him that too!

I wonder…does he care? Does he believe me?

I wonder if he’ll come to my rescue. He never has before. “Terri, everything doesn’t have to be discussed.” He said.

I wonder if he knows that was the beginning of the end…

I am sure I am going to get this shocked, surprised look when I layout my reasons “why”.

I wonder if he’ll make an attempt to be the man I need him to be.

I wonder…

I wonder will I remain Mrs.?

I wonder how my children will react.

I wonder if my life will change.

I wonder if I’m making the right decision.

I know God is on my side & He will see me through, but still…

I wonder…